Foreplay, THE game

Have you ever enjoyed foreplay so much that you would never go to the main course? Or has the main action ever been much worse than foreplay? This movie has happened to me several times. I'm not criticizing the main act, but sometimes foreplay is much better. It is only interesting why my head is not able to put both in the same basket, foreplay and the main game under the common umbrella with the title "sex".

Foreplay has always been great - long and surprisingly above average if the head was “here and now”. They lasted the whole afternoon, even with coffee stops, or lying naked and watching TV. Occasionally, some ice cream was also on the schedule. It may be years, or a new hormonal picture, but lately I have been extremely comfortable with this rhythm. Being always on edge and in anticipation of the afternoon, without any great need for organs to join. 

I have nothing against it, but the imagination seems to be more limited there. Especially when you become aware of your physical limitations - because I am one meter and a cookie high, I am rarely in the mood for the main course to be served standing up, and because occasionally my fibroids hurt me inside, I find it difficult to prepare for a missionary position. Good thing, because I never really liked it. The fault can also be partially belonging to the routine, for which I have realized in the last ten years that there is nothing wrong with it. I can also put my yoga skills to the test there. 

In contrast to sex, imagination is limitless in foreplay. It can happen spontaneously or be more planned, while cooking, while lying down, anywhere, as long as you are not overwhelmed with shame. It can easily happen on your side, on your back, on your stomach, and yes, it can just be as simple as lying down and stroking. 

Foreplay activates the neurological and sensory systems, as well as the physical and emotional responses, more than the main action. The combination of all this creates a greater sense of connection and, of course, expectation. For the last one in particular, I can confirm beyond a doubt that this is true. The excitement of foreplay is at its peak. Every time our body detects that something pleasant is about to happen, it slowly releases dopamine. Likewise, foreplay, unlike the main action, focuses on multiple erogenous zones and gently awakens and stimulates nerve endings, wherever it can. 

The two best things about foreplay are that a person maintains control over the rhythm, which is not conditioned by the need to have sex, and reduced pressure, such as how I look, what I will be, what condition my body will be in, whether I will be able to have sex, and similar concerns. As a control freak, I like to keep the rhythm, speed, and intensity of foreplay under my control. I also like that, although it may sound bizarre, at least half of the worries I still have are gone, regardless of my age.

My findings are also confirmed by science. For most people, including me, the brain is the main source of arousal. Foreplay gives the brain the opportunity to explore proximity, novelty, feelings, and use imagination, while the act of sex itself is repetitive and predictable. 

Today, the vast majority of people take foreplay as preparation for the main game. For some, ten minutes is enough; others take their time, but they always end up in the main game. But foreplay is not just preparation and is not less than sex; it should be taken as part of sex. It can also be a stand-alone act, why not? With foreplay and the main game, we set our own boundaries in our heads, which I also faithfully followed. But then a turn happened in me. I learned that I get to know my body much better during foreplay and that I can also rest without any problems and then start again. What's better than a long afternoon in bed?

Foreplay is becoming the main game for me. I will never give up what we know today as the main game, but why should it always end there? Maybe because foreplay is enough and orgasm is just a cherry on top in the end.