From a triangle to a cowgirl
"Hot sex positions", "Women on top", "Positions for epic sexual pleasure", "Today you will be on top".
These are just some of the articles' headlines in women's magazines that, depending on the relationship you're in or your character, advise you which sexual position is best for you. Sometimes it even depends on the stars and your zodiac sign. I didn't find my favorite positions through magazines but through my own experiences and feelings.
I have quite a few of them—both for masturbation and sex. In the latter, at the beginning of each past relationship, I chose primarily positions that were safe from my head's point of view. It was only later that I replaced them with a little more daring ones that brought me pleasure.
First sex, first position. I would bet everything I have that for most of us, the first position was missionary. And I was satisfied - it felt like lying on the beach. I lay on my back and didn't have to do anything, and the guy didn't see my body, which was terrific. The position had only one drawback at the beginning: the pain I felt somewhere deep inside me. It was even worse if I had my legs together and my knees were resting on my chest. Like someone was tearing me inside. So it went from a great position that hides my imperfections to the least popular. I like it today, but only if the guy is not lying on me, so I can easily reach the clit with my fingers. The best place to do it is the kitchen table.
During my teenage years, I fell in love with all positions on the side, mostly all spooning variations. Why? Easy. It didn't hurt, and besides, I was able to reach orgasm quickly. I reached that little bump between my legs with my hand without difficulty. Even the position on the side when you are facing each other is something unique and magical. You can feel every drop of sweat and hide the moans under your partner's head. You can also gently squeeze the male genitalia at the root with your fingers. The version of position 69 on the side also left me speechless. It was amazing.
Now I am into doggy style. Before, I didn't want anyone to watch my peach with a big P during sex. I thought it was not looking good, and I didn't want to show it around. But I have always liked another version of this position - when a woman is lying on her stomach. You can slightly raise your butt to get your hand under the peach, directly on your clit.
The positions I've sworn to myself I will not practice are all the ones where the woman is on top. I didn't care what the articles were saying. I will not do it. No, no, no. These are positions in which you put your whole body on display. Besides, you have to move. Every time you open your eyes, you meet your partner's eyes unintentionally. And so, I was doing my best to avoid these positions. I persistently rejected them for ten years. I am blaming the shame and also some pain I felt in these positions. Especially if one of them was the starting position.
It was only in recent years and with the right partners that I've tried the cowgirl position purely by chance. Some rolling on the bed, and I was on top. Shit, what now? Should I spoil everything with the stupid phrase "No, I'm not doing this position"? I decided to take the risk, fuck it. I closed my eyes and discovered an entirely new world of pleasure. My body dictated the rhythm. My hand reached for my clitoris, and a few minutes later, I was on my way to orgasm. It was also the only position in which I experienced an orgasm without the help of my hands.
As I surmounted my stupid mental barrier, I also decided to do a sitting position that I had always wanted to try. My enjoyment during "woman on top" positions has even come so far that I am seriously thinking if they have not become my favorite ones (cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, sitting position).
If you asked me for advice, I would answer you to try as many different positions as possible and see which one suits you best and which one you enjoy. Sometimes it's also worth listening to what some women's magazine crap articles are saying to you.