Let it be anal!
In recent years, the popularity of anal sex has grown, the interest in that kind of sex is immense. Just imagine twenty years ago, this would have been considered dirty and shameful, sex that only gays are practicing. Today, our perspective has changed. The market is flooded with all sorts of erotic toys for anal pleasure. Plugs, vibrating or not, tails, rabbit or fox, and other similar accessories.
I first got to know anal sex a few years ago, somewhat by force. I was younger and a little braver. No preparation and no conversation. Just a question and a simple answer: "Yeah, just do it."
Without any lubricant, but with a condom and feeling like my butt was going to explode. Meanwhile, I was thinking of every single thing that I ate that day and the day before. The feeling was pretty similar to when you can't hold your shit together. Literally, and I was not fond of it at all. Later, I avoided anal sex as much as possible and skipped the large, tasteless holes in pornographic films. Until now.
I became a big fan of combining clitoral and anal stimulation. I seriously started thinking of trying it over and over again. To give my butt the pleasure it deserves. I decided to try anal toys before having sex. I fell in love with the foxtail and put it in the basket, but after each excitement, I quickly changed my mind and closed the online store page. The plugs seemed too big, and a painful memory was again right in front of me.
Is anal sex safe?
Nevertheless, I kept the desire to explore something new, so I started reading various articles about anal sex. I read the next practical tips:
- relax (I hate this advice, but it's more than welcome here - an extended foreplay is a must);
- accept the fact that it will be dirty (during anal sex, there is a high possibility that something gets dirty, regardless of whether you clean yourself thoroughly before or not; after all, this is what the anus does - it is getting rid of the dirt in our body);
- find the proper position (it should be comfortable - choose one that does not require gymnastic skills);
- use a lubricant and condom (always, without exception);
- clean yourself before and especially after sex;
- start gently and slowly (perhaps use your fingers and toys first and then give anal sex a go).
Just as there is some risk with every sexual intercourse, also anal sex is not entirely safe. Indeed, you cannot get pregnant, but there is a greater chance that you will get sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV, syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, or herpes. Usually, men are the ones who see anal sex as a condom-free action. Unfortunately, this is not the case. It is also necessary to stick to the next saying: "Slow and steady wins the race." Do not exaggerate, as in rare cases, perforation of the intestine can also occur.
If dirt worries you the most, this is a fact you need to get used to. It is good to go to the toilet one hour before having sex and wash thoroughly with soap or wipe your butt with moisturizing wipes. Please do not listen to Trump and do not use disinfectant. You can also buy a cleansing aid called enema in erotic shops.
Butt and the use of erotic toys
The rules are more or less the same as for couples anal sex. It may be a little better to try the toys yourself first, as this way you really get to know what suits you and what doesn't, what feels right, and when your body has had enough. You still have to make sure that the anal and vaginal openings keep a social distance. This means that toys need to be washed and kept clean before they visit another hole.
The most commonly used toys are butt plugs that come in all shapes and sizes. Start with the smallest and move on gradually. Later, when you are already a little more familiar with the body's responses, you can also use vibrating anal toys. It should be noted that you do not use toys that are not intended for anal play, as not all of them have a base that prevents the intestines from sucking it inside. So don't play with cucumbers, vibrators, and similar things that can bring you directly to the emergency room.
If it hurts, stop the game and don't force it. Minor bleeding may also occur, which is a common side effect. If so, stop and focus on something else. Anal play is all about pressure that is supposed to lead you to enjoy, maybe even orgasm, after a few exercises.
I will use a simple butt plug for my first solo anal game. Although I watch it every day, I haven't tried it yet. However, I will take the courage to see if first anal sex sensations return or find a whole new dimension of anal sex with large amounts of lubricant.
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