What can men buy in erotic shops?
Over the past decades, women have struggled with self-awareness of their own sexual power. There was a lot of talk about women's self-sufficiency and their emancipation. This has led to where we are today, closets full of vibrators and endless screams of joy. But, where are the men?
Once leading players in sexuality, they got lost in a flood of womens' vibrators. Almost all manufacturers of erotic toys are creating for the sexually liberated and independent women. Songs talk about female masturbation; we often see it in movies. And all of this seems normal to us, even appealing. We secretly nod while watching that kind of movie scene and are overflowing with pride. We are not ashamed; we are not blushing anymore. Masturbation is now a part of women's well-being.
But how do we as a society look at male masturbation? Mostly with disapproval, with disgust. They are just jerking off all the time. With men, masturbation is not part of well-being; it is a perverse act. While we enjoy watching commercials in which women fall on the bed tired and satisfied, we hardly imagine a man in the same role.
The same happens when you look closely at the shelves in the erotic shop. Women choose from rabbit vibrators, G-spot vibrators, clitoris vibrators, dildos, bullet vibrators, and I could go on and on. In shops, both online and physical, we can spend hours surrounded by products that bring us to orgasm. But, what about men? They can choose between a hundred and one masturbator, a penis ring, a doll, an artificial vulva (It is so ugly.) in different skin colors. One type of this doll has its buttocks attached to its face, combining three holes, the mouth, the vagina, and the anus. Penis rings look dull and uncomfortable. More or less, however, these are uninteresting toys that have fallen far behind women's erotic toys in design. The exceptions are some companies like Tenga, but even their choice is not so diverse.
And dolls? The ugly ones with open mouths are forgotten; now realistic ones are in vogue, which has triggered some disapproval among women and some men. Perverted, perverted, and once again perverted. But who wants to sleep next to a doll with big boobies and a perfect hole between her legs?
Just imagine that men could talk as comfortable as women about using toys. When a woman talks about how many vibrators she has at home, it is accepted with approval. You can picture her doing it. On the other hand, it would be completely different if a man mentioned that he has a doll, a ring, or a prostate massager at home. The first thought of the people around would be that he is gay and would give him a pitty look. They would probably wonder why he doesn't have a woman or why he is not helping himself with his hand. After all, that's all he needs.
On the one hand, the industry of erotic toys for women is growing fast; they invent new forms that provide pleasure in one way or another, while the imagination of male toy designers stopped at a realistic doll. Today, women who masturbate are elevated to a pedestal, and men remain ashamed. Possible reasons may lie in a woman's emancipation and their urge to consume. Also, women today are often alone and without children. Although the toy does not offer the same as a man, it is the greatest pleasure bringer in this lonely world.
I am not saying there are too many toys for women. I don't even think there will ever be too many of them. We are different; we like other shapes, colors, brands, vibration powers. However, companies for men could do the same. Please give them a choice and offer something more than we already know.