Gifts, gifts, gifts!
It's December. Time for Christmas carols on the radio, lights everywhere, and the anxiety while visiting the malls. Gifts for grandma, gifts for mom, for dad, for kids, for a partner. For most of the above, we usually at least dream of what we will buy. The problem arises when we think of a gift for our partner, imagination sometimes stops, and it goes on strike.
Then it comes to the next stage - crazy running around the shops and looking to find gold at the last minute. Teddy bears, lingerie, jewelry for women, watches, accessories, telephones, technical devices for men. We are everywhere. Big bang, Slowatch, Lisca, Calzedonia, ... If that fails, the unfortunate ones sit down behind the computer and start browsing foreign websites. At the same time, we hope to come across something unique and possibly with a short delivery time.
Some, either out of desperation or because they think it is a good idea, visit online sex shops. Men, in particular, imagine how a sex toy would be a wonderful gift. And you kill two flies at once. A woman is happy and satisfied. A man is fortunate, because there is always something promising about sex toys, be it insanely excellent foreplay or great sex—a win-win situation.
Unfortunately, it is not always what men imagine. I could even say that most women aren't thrilled with the idea of having a fun toy waiting for them under a Christmas tree. Why?
Most of the women are offended. You bought her a sex toy. This has several meanings, and they are all negative in most women's heads. The first thing in their mind is that you bought her an erotic toy because she is a lousy sex partner. Let her play with the toy and leave you alone behind the computer when you experience your happy ending during the moderate screams of Jenna Jameson?
The second reason why you bought her a toy is similar to the first. No matter how hard she tries during sex, you tell her in that way that she is boring and predictable. That you need something more. More fun, more new stuff.
The third but rarer reason is that you only have your woman for fun hours in bed. That's all you think about and don't buy her things that reflect love and not sex.
If you are already buying erotic toys as gifts, don't buy them because you have no ideas, but buy them for someone who will appreciate it. A woman who likes to push boundaries of her sexuality, and at the same time, does not see the end of the world if you buy her a sex toy. For some, a useful erotic toy is better than a teddy bear holding a heart.
And yet, even in cases like that, caution is never excessive. If your partner is very open to erotic toys, you can easily buy her whatever your heart desires. Just make sure the toy is exciting and perfect for your partner. Judging by myself, I would be a little disappointed if I got a toy that doesn't vibrate. I would still be happy to try it, but I don't think it would bring me as much pleasure as a good vibrator.
If you still insist that an erotic toy is a good idea, buy the one that won't yell out loud "You're boring, leave me alone and use a toy". Buy toys for couples that can be found in any sex toy store. This will let your partner know that there is nothing wrong with her, but you want to deepen your relationship.
Despite all the women's beliefs and misreading of signals, I would like people to accept sexuality with their minds wide open. Not to frown but rather jump of joy when they see an erotic toy under a beautifully decorated Christmas tree.