Do you prefer silicone or real meat?

"You probably don't enjoy sex, do you? Do you think it's overrated? Do men from real flesh and blood get on your nerves? You are probably more into solo play than couples play?" No, dear man, despite the enormous amount of silicone in my closet, I'm also into couples' things, and I sometimes even fantasize about having a threesome. 

Almost every time I talk to men, be it on social media or in person, I can smell what will almost certainly come from their mouth at some point. After the initial question about which toy is my favorite and which is the best, there is often a question that must be burning you deep down: "Given your collection, you probably prefer silicone ones, don't you?" Not even in my wildest dreams, before I started writing this blog in earnest, I never imagined that someone would ask me exactly that. Do you really feel threatened by silicone?

For a while, I thought it was impossible, that it simply couldn't be, but it turned out to be true. Although most men nod their heads happily when I ask them the above question, half of them almost always get stuck when I ask if they agree that their partner uses toys, even if she shares her bed with a stick from flash and blood. As long as they don't see it and the vibrator is buried in a closet somewhere, it's okay, but if their enemy sneaks into the bed, the world comes crashing down. 

Most could argue that this is the same as women complaining about their partner's pornography collection. But if you know that women's fear is unfounded in this case, why let erotic toys endanger your manhood? Because they last longer? Because they bring women to orgasm faster, or because they are easier to use?

We insist on comparisons between 'man-vibrator' and 'woman-pornography.' It is probably because they have a common goal, but you are forgetting about the path, which is entirely different. I have never once thought of swapping a man for a silicone toy, just as you men have probably never thought of your lifelong companion being nothing more than a sad collection of pornography on a shelf in your study. True, sex toys are great, but that never stopped me from having sex. Why should I when it feels completely different? I don't caress the vibrator, I don't feel the warmth of the body it's attached to, I don't observe its response, and I don't work for shared pleasure. An erotic toy is a toy, a helper, and nothing else. A thing that, if you are open-minded enough, will become your friend and not your enemy. 

It will become that when you realize that you are not always enough. At this point, an avalanche of accusations would probably follow that we women are then the problem and that we are only capable of thinking of ourselves and our own pleasure. I have heard this many times, but at that time, my only helpers were my fingers; I had not even gotten to vibrators yet. But it was hard for me to orgasm during sex if my hand wasn't touching my clitoris. I have always loved sex; I love the smell that fills the room, I adore bodies touching, and I am in love with the drops of sweat that, in their own way, show my commitment to the sexual act with the person next to me. But I also like to have an orgasm, preferably several of them. 

However, due to the more complex anatomy of the female genitalia, not all women achieve orgasms like clockwork without additional stimulation during sex. Finally, after a long time, I met a man who did not mind me using toys or fingers during sex. I felt easier on my heart, and I have never had better sex. Not because of erotic toys; I knew I had him on my side. Sometimes I needed the help of fingers, sometimes the help of a vibrator, and sometimes none of it. Knowing that I 'got permission' to use erotic toys was enough for me to relax completely. I learned how to take care of myself during sex and simultaneously make the other person horny as hell. 

So, silicone or real meat? Both! That's not even a question, but it's a great indicator of your thoughts on erotic toys. Now, quickly back to your rabbit hole; the pink vibrator has just yawned and is coming out of the closet!